Sunday, May 17, 2009

The Way We Were

Hi. Remember me? I'm the person who used to blog here.

It was a fairly rough week, both at work and away. The ex-husband of my best friend, Candy (we've known each other since high school), passed away. Although they didn't have a very amicable divorce, time usually does heal all wounds, and, mainly because they have 2 sons, things became better between them over the years. They were married when Candy was only 19; I was a bridesmaid and even caught the bouquet!
When I heard Pete had died, it affected me strangely. It wasn't because I cared much for him. But it hit me that, with his passing, they had come full circle. Dating, marriage, kids, divorce, grandchildren, death. I started heading down Memory Lane and became a bit melancholy. I remember when my parents' started losing their friends and it's hard for me to accept that I'm at that point in my life.
It was a warm night when I drove to the wake and I had my window down. A car pulled up next to me and I could hear clearly the song coming from their speakers - "The Way We Were" and my eyes started to tear up.
I had an "Oops" moment at the wake. When I got there, I knelt & said a prayer. When I got up, I saw Candy in the back of the room, but there were people sitting off to the side who I assumed were members of Pete's family. I figured it would be rude of me to just walk by and not acknowledge them. So I went over and said "Hi, I'm Kathy; I was a bridesmaid in Pete & Candy's wedding." Well, I got no response from anyone, other than a cold stare. So, I gave my regrets and moved on. When I told Candy what I said, she let out a loud, long laugh. It turns out that the woman I addressed myself to was Pete's second wife, who despises Candy. I thought I noticed her foot come out to try and trip me.

10 comments:

  1. It is amazing how when people get divorced they end up ahving to hate each other, it is really sad that they can't be more civil to each other.

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  2. Otin - That comment PROVES you've never been married!!! LOL!!!

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  3. Hey, glad to see you posting. Sorry things have been tough. Funny moment at the wake, however...

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  5. It is always good to learn from the past.

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  6. Wow! This is one of the unusual post. Thanks for sharing your story.

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  7. You have to reconcile your relationship with that person. I know that you can cope with your problem.

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  8. Each person has his/her own unique personality. The only thing that we have to do is to respect each one.

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  9. God created us all unique. We are different from one another. I do that we are distinct characters.

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